Insights from the Johnson-Gottman Summit, July 2013

I recently had the pleasure of attending a conference with 1200 other couple and family therapists, where the developers of the two leading  approaches for helping relationships, Sue Johnson (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy – EFT) and John and Julie Gottman (Gottman Couples Therapy) shared insights about love, relationships, and keys to success in couples therapy:

  • how love grows (turns out it’s not such a mystery – there’s science behind our attraction and connection)
  • how loving relationships sometimes go off track (20+ years of up-close examination of couples reveals critical information about what happens, why it happens, and helps make sense about how to help couples move back to closeness, trust, and loving relationships)
  • how to recognize and offer relationship help that will shift communication habits that erode trust and connection
  • how to guide couples to recognize these in themselves, so they can sustain the progress they gain in counselling
  • and how to help couples rejuvenate and enrich the connection between them, to build a loving relationship that will see couples through the tough times, and enable couples to grow even closer through the process

So much gained, it’s more than I can convey in one post; the summit was inspiring, and re-ignited my passion and clarity to assist couples who want to re-kindle the joy and connection in their relationships. Relationships CAN be helped.